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Wednesday, July 30, 2008

NITI THE FRENCH CAT


My previous cat - Pupuce - left her body on April 16th 2007. She used to hear the Maha Mantra and I taught her to look at Krsna's pictures in my flat. When she left her body, I played the Maha Mantra for her to hear it and I put a Tulasi leaf in her mouth and some drops of Ganga water. She left her body peacefully.

On May 23rd 2008, a devotee phoned me and I told her about my cat Pupuce. I was sad and felt lonely. She said I should adopt another cat but I told her that I didn't want to be attached to another one as in the scriptures it is said we should only be attached to Krsna.

She told me that I could turn another cat into a devotee. The next morning, my brother found a tiny pussy kitten in the street. It was raining, windy, rather cold. My brother took this kitten in. I was due to come. When I came in at my brother's, he put the kitten in my arms! I was ready to find her a foster family. I didn't want to keep her. I couldn't find anybody to look after her and I was told: "Krsna sent her to you, for you to turn her into a devotee cat!" Ok! I was ready to keep her! I called her Gribouille, which means "grey face" in a very cute way. Actually, she never responded to her name.

I asked my siksa-guru whether it was possible to give a spiritual name to a cat. And he said yes. I asked him to choose a name for her. He gave her the name Niti. The first time I called my kitten Niti, she responded straight away! What a surprise!

A few mornings later, I found her sitting in front of a Gaura-Nitai picture! (see picture above). Everybody knows you can't make a cat sit down! I was really surprised! Another day, I found her sitting on my altar! I had to teach her not to do that!

The first morning she saw me offering fresh water to my Gaura-Nitai, she stole the Maha water from the bowl I put it! What cat would steal water? From then on, I've had to hide the Maha water because she was very eager to drink it! We've had to share it, now!

Last week, when I was in London, my cat was at my mother's. My mother - who is not a devotee - tried to give her meat! Niti refused.

Sukanti devi dasi, France

LEADER

One leader said: "I am ready to make mistakes."

Another leader said: "I am ready to learn from my mistakes and not repeat them."

Whom would you follow?

Wednesday, July 23, 2008

AGITATED

To become agitated is not very unusual thing, but to control it, that is the real thing.

- Prabhupada

Tuesday, July 22, 2008

CONNECT WITH PEOPLE

You might think you know everything there is to know (or care to know) about the people you work with or interact with in your community.

Chances are, you know very little and that if you were more curious, asked more questions and took on the mentality of a learner instead of a judge, you would start feeling humbled and more compassionate towards people.

When compassion grows, connection grows and meaning results.

Exchanges feel more fulfilling and satisfying instead of being pat or superficial.

- Laura Berman Fortgang

DHIRA-LALITA DASI



This is Dhira-lalita dasi. She is amazing!

Monday, July 21, 2008

DEVOTEE CARE

To me, one of the main purposes of devotee care is to train enthusiastic preachers.

MESSAGE TO A LEADER

Beware of becoming envious of the people on your team.

These people can make you or break you.

If you help them succeed, it will be your success.

CENTRE

Some people would do anything, good or bad, to be in the centre of attention.

NEVER GET IT RIGHT

When you are heavy, people criticize you and keep distance.

When you are gentle, they boss you around.

BAD LEADERSHIP

Bad leadership is often a result of inattentive japa.

BRAHMACARI

How can you know that you are a brahmacari or a sannyasi?

If you can be happy without the support and appreciation from women.

LEADER

Effective spiritual leader trains preachers, not personal servants.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

HAPPY

If we want to be happy we have to stop being proud and being rude.

ISKCON SOHO DEVOTEES

I'm Thankful for the place that so many people call home

I'm Thankful for the devotees I have come to know

I'm Thankful for the Kirtanas Bhajans and Harinams

I'm Thankful for the loving hands who understand

I'm Thankful for the times you've listened to my crying woes

I'm Thankful for the patience you have when I am very slow

I'm Thankful for the chastisements when I have done wrong

I'm Thankful for the path that by Srila Prabhupadas mercy I am starting on

I'm Thankful for the times you've defended me

I'm Thankful for the big ISKCON family tree

I'm Thankful for the prasadam that I receive each day

I'm Thankful for the process of calling Krsna Rama and Hare

I'm Thankful for the feeling when you are there

I'm Thankful for the unconditional tender love and care

I'm Thankful for the good times and the bad

I'm Thankful for the happy times and the sad

I'm Thankful for the many many things that you all do

I'm Thankful for the struggles you've somehow got me through

But most of all I'm Thankful to you for being you

- Cassie Robinson

Wednesday, July 16, 2008

PEOPLE AND I

Those who know my dark side - keep distance.

Those who don't - adore me.

THE PATH OF LEADERSHIP

First they glorified me.

Then they worshiped me.

Then they doubted me.

Then they criticized me.

Then they hated me.

Then they sacked me.

VICTIM

Once we understand that we are not innocent, we will understand that we are not a victim.

PLANET LEADERSHIP

It seems that Lord Krsna is raising standards of leadership on this planet, both within and without ISKCON. Those of us who don't want or cannot change will have to leave the service of leadership.

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

HOW TO ADVANCE

(This is based on the 12 Steps by AA.)

Admit that you are powerless and that your life had become unmanageable.

Believe that a Power greater than yourself could restore you to sanity.

Make a decision to turn over your will and your life to the care of God, as you understand Him.

Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of yourself.

Admit to God, to yourself, and to another human being the exact nature of your wrongs.

Be entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.

Humbly ask Him to remove your shortcomings.

Make a list of all persons you had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.

Make direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.

Continue to take personal inventory and when you are wrong promptly admit it.

Seek through prayer and meditation to improve your conscious contact with God as you understand Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.

Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, try to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all your affairs.

JUDGE


Our business is to raise ourselves to the highest status of life as preachers of Krsna's message, and one should behave himself rigidly, then he should instruct others. Two things: Be himself exemplary, then teach others to be exemplary. If one has not come to that high standard, he cannot judge or criticize others. There is one saying from Bible: 'Judge not, lest ye be judged.' So how we can preach unless we are able to make judgements? That will not be possible. Only those who are above suspicion can judge others. One must himself act in such a way that he is always above suspicion. Then he can judge, then he can preach. ... One who is not following himself, how he can instruct others?

- Srila Prabhupada

PERFECT

To criticize another man does not mean you are perfect. That is a different thing. You have to prove that you are perfect.

- Srila Prabhupada

RESULTS

The truth is that we almost always know the right thing to do.

The hard part is doing it.

The questions is - do we want to have excuses or results in our life?

DIRECTIVE AND NON-DIRECTIVE COACHING

DIRECTIVE

- I know how

- I tell you

- You follow instruction

NON-DIRECTIVE

- You know how

- I ask you

- You decide

MOBILE PHONE AND THE BHAGAVAD-GITA


Got this yesterday in my inbox.

Let us wonder what would happen if we treated our Bhagavad-Gita like we treat our mobile phone.

What if we carried it around in our pockets?

What if we flipped through it several times a day?

What if we turned back to go get it if we forgot it?

What if we used it to receive messages from the text?

What if we treated it like we couldn't live without it?

What if we gave it to kids as gifts?

What if we used it when we travelled?

What if we used it in case of emergency?

IT'S JUST HOW IT IS

How come that when I try to phone you, you never pick up the phone, but when you are with me you always have "urgent" calls?

How come that you rarely or never answer my emails, but when you are with me you look at your email dutifully?

How come that when you are with me you allow others to interrupt our conversation, but when I need to ask you something while you talk to others you excuse yourself and say that you need to first finish the conversation?

How is it so?

Well, my conclusion is that your relationship with me is not important to you, or at least it's not as important as your relationship with others.

And that's ok.

It's just how it is.

Monday, July 14, 2008

WHAT INSPIRES YOU?

What leader inspires you?

One who says: "Please continue to tolerate my flaws."

Or one who says: "Please help me improve."

Friday, July 11, 2008

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

MAY YOU BE BLESSED


May your eyes be blessed
with sweet tears of longing
for the beloved of your heart
Sri Sri Radha and Krsna
for such tears cure the "mistaken outlook,"
and make the bitter tears of misery disappear.

May your vision be blessed
with cooling glances of compassion
as you see the many souls all around
suffering in the heat of their silent sufferings
for by thinking about the true welfare of others
your own problems will automatically leave you
and you will prosper and blossom.

May your mind be blessed
by the divine touch of the Lord's presence
so that you gain the strength
to turn your challenges into opportunities
and your failures into impulses
that bring out your best.

May your heart be blessed
with soft waves of gratitude and love for the Divine Couple
that heals you inside and outside
and awakens your true self
from the unconscious faint,
in which it reels since time immemorial.

May all your efforts be blessed
so that you may reach the Land of Divine Love
conquering over the relentless cycle
of birth and death in this world.

And may your feet be blessed
to always carry you into good association
where all these and many more blessings
can be experienced and maintained.

Yes, may the winds of blessings carry your whole being forward,
like a sailing boat on the ocean of time.
And should your ship experience difficult times,
where your heart trembles and stalks -
then don´t worry, there is hope:
Call upon the Names of the Lord
with deep feelings of yearning.
He will certainly rush to your help
and give you the required strength of heart.

Sacinandana Swami

DON'T BECOME ANGRY

It is the causeless mercy of the Supreme Lord that He always tries to bring us back home, back to Godhead. God is liberated, and He tries to make us liberated, but although He is constantly trying, we refuse to accept His instructions.... Nonetheless, He has not become angry. Therefore He is described here as bhuri-karunaya, unlimitedly merciful in delivering us from this miserable material condition of life and taking us back home, back to Godhead.

Srimad-Bhagavatam 8.3.17 Purport

Similarly, our preachers should not become angry if people refuse to accept their instructions, but should continue to patiently try to inspire and induce them to take Krsna consciousness for their own good.

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

HOW COACHING HELPS?


In many ways. Here are some.

Prabhupada says to fan the spark, spark of enthusiasm in Krishna consciousness. Coaching helps you to light a spark in your heart for serving Krishna.

Coaching helps you to think very deeply about your life, bringing a perspective about what you want, what you don’t want and about relationships with other devotees and your spiritual master.

It also helps to understand the philosophy, providing fresh challenges and how to stretch, grow and advance in the way you think and the way you act.

Working with your mind and intelligence, you think carefully about what you say and what you do.

It also helps you to think for yourself, not being a blind follower, but using your intelligence to understand what's best for you.

Monday, July 7, 2008

3 MOST DANGEROUS WORDS

What are the three most dangerous words in English language?

“I know that.”

Saying that is very dangerous because one who thinks like that is not open to learning.

It’s good to be open and try to see things from another perspective.

Friday, July 4, 2008

MOTIVATE


How can you motivate myself to do the things you put off with continual procrastination?

Get clear about what would be great about completing them!

Write down what the best thing about having completed this task will be.

Add lots of detail.

The more detail you add, the more real and inspiring your goals will become!

If you don't like this, try it anyway. You might find it useful.

If you can see how you could use this tip, if it sounds useful, and if you feel it could be for you, take some action today!

Thursday, July 3, 2008

GITA COACHING INTERVIEW IN LONDON

Bhakta Matt Morreale, the CEO of Yoga Maya Films, interviewed Akrura dasa about Gita Coaching.

Matt: You have been travelling over the past few years around Europe teaching the Gita Coaching Course. What countries did you visit and what was the response?

Akrura dasa: I visited Belgium, Croatia, Denmark, Germany, Greece, Ireland, Italy, Poland, Serbia and Slovenia. I also had a course in London two times. In Greece we had a TV programme called ‘Holistic Success’. We had live phone calls from people. We presented a few short films, sang some bhajanas and told a few stories. In Belgium, we had a presentation about how Gita Coaching relates to Prabhupada’s teachings. It was attended by 20 devotees.

In Italy, we had a presentation for leaders, with 12 devotees. In Croatia and Slovenia, we had full three-day course, with over 30 devotees attending. In Croatia, we visited two cities, Zagreb and Split, and in both places we had over 30 devotees attending.

Matt: What were the highlights of your visits?

Ad: It was the positive response of the local devotees and especially participants. They had been very active and very enthusiastic, at least several of them. What I expect from students the most and what I would like to see after the course is actually the follow-up. If some of them start coaching others and continue developing their coaching skills. In Split, Croatia, which is an the Adriatic coast, the response was very good. In Slovenia they also wanted to create their own coaches (personal development assistants) and we were discussing this with the temple president.

I had an unusual coaching session with one devotee that showed me how devotees have the potential and the capacity to solve their own problems. A devotee came to me with a particular problem, I was listening to him and I was thinking shall I give him advice or ask him questions. I decided to ask him to try to be his own consultant. I said, “Imagine that you are an expert in these kinds of issues. What would you tell this guy which is you?” Then I walked out and I left him with a pen and paper for about 5 minutes. I came back and saw that he was smiling. He had written down five ideas and looked happy. He said, “I’ve got some ideas. I think these can be worked on but somehow until now I couldn’t resolve this”.

Then I said, “That’s very nice. Thank you for doing this exercise, but that’s not all. Now go back to your old identity, to your old self and give me your best excuses why each of these solutions they cannot be implemented. And I walked out again. I came back in a few minutes and he was laughing uncontrollably. He was almost delirious. He realized how he sabotages himself daily.

I told him, “You see, your whole life is here and you can choose to be the solution one or the sabotaged one. And he was laughing even more. He was so happy and amazed by his realization. He had a great revelation.

I left that particular temple to visit some other places and I visited the same temple on my way back to London. That devotee was still so happy, engaged in service. So this was one of the best things I experienced in my travels. He helped himself. I just created the environment.

Matt: What do you see as the future of Gita Coaching?

Ad: My desire is that we have at least one fired-up coach in each ISKCON temple and there are over 150 ISKCON temples around the world. This means that I have a lot of work to do, to help train a lot of coaches, and I have great hopes for this because more invitations are coming from various ISKCON centres. The next Gita Coaching Course will be in New Mayapur, France, in October this year (2008). Interest in coaching is growing and I would like to serve devotees who are able to give this course, train other coaches and most importantly, coach devotees.

We want to help leaders of ISKCON but we also want to help any devotee who is serious, who wants to take responsibility for the mission and who wants to be excellent in various areas of his or her life.

Matt: So what happens after your courses? Do you keep in touch with the students and are they actually applying what they learn?

Ad: I do keep in touch via email, Skype, on the phone to see if they are still interested in applying what they have learned or in learning more. For me, the main work happens after the Gita Coaching Course. I am happy to report that devotees in one of centres I visited are very serious, at least 4 or 5 of them, to have a team of coaches who will be continuing coaching other devotees and developing more of their skills. They will also be coaching each other.

For me, follow-up is actually where things really happen. The course is just the beginning, the foundation for the long-term work and the beginning of the exciting process. Coaching is not just an event, but a process of personal development and continuous improvement in all areas of your life.

Matt: Great, thank you very much!

Ad: It was my pleasure.

Tuesday, July 1, 2008

THE POISON IS PERSONAL AMBITION

by Devaki dd

http://namahatta.org/en/node/7832

The highlight of my visit to Mayapur this year was Anuttama Prabhu's seminar on leadership and management—an extremely valuable course, which teaches so many important skills and principles of effective leadership and management.

Taking this course confirmed my realization that there is another reason why we have lost so many devotees worldwide over the past years besides the fact that we have failed to create a supportive spiritual culture which would give nourishment and shelter to each and every devotee joining this movement. We have also failed to educate and train our leaders systematically and equip them with the necessary skills in order to become true servant-leaders, who lead with affection and detachment. Rather we have so often allowed that dangerous weed to grow and flourish: the attachment to power, position and facilities...

So often we take "management" to mean "keeping devotees under control," and a management position can nearly become a license for exercising the tendency of wanting to be in power and position over others—a licence for being a little "supreme controller."

I remember once HH Bhakti Tirtha Maharaja saying in a seminar in Mayapur: "There are some leaders in ISKCON who wouldn't be devotees if they were not leaders." What a bold statement!

I also remember one devotee who had been a temple president for several years, once saying to me in confidence, after he had stopped being active in ISKCON: "When I joined I could very clearly see that ISKCON has such a structure that if you do the right thing for some years, you get into power and position. And that was my motive." He had been honest enough to make such statement—how many others would never dare to admit it...

A leader who is attached to power and position will not allow others to come up. He will see them as a threat to his position and therefore will keep them down. This creates a very discouraging and stiffling atmosphere, not giving any space and possibility for personal growth and development. And as a result the entire project doesn't grow and develop. Such a leader will surround himself with "Yes-men," who simply hope to also get into power and position one day, after saying "yes" long enough.

Intelligent people will not want to be part of this and go somewhere else, or feel so discouraged in their attempts to develop themselves spiritually, that they get back into developing themselves materially. I have observed this going on in many places.

Over the past years devotees often complained to me about discouraging leadership and management in their yatras; I didn't take this seriously, thinking them too critical, only finding faults. I had no experience of what it's like to work under discouraging authorities, having left the Australian yatra as a rather young devotee, after being in Krishna consciousness for four years only.

It was in 1989—I had just gotten married, and we ventured all the way to Latvia in order to start the preaching there. It was such exciting pioneer work, right at the end of the Soviet days. I had had the perfect environment to grow and develop myself; life was full of dynamic transcendental adventures and challenges. My only direct authorities had been my spiritual master and our local GBC's. This is most likely how I survived until today, as an active and happy devotee.

I had no experience of what it's like to serve under temple authorities day-in and day-out, and I simply couldn't imagine that they wouldn't always be supportive and encouraging.

Anuttama Prabhu's course was indeed an eye-opener in this regard. I came to understand that, apart from so many other important skills, we hadn't taught our leaders how to delegate and empower others—even though Srila Prabhupada was such a perfect example of being expert at both: empowering his new and inexperienced disciples and delegating.

Interestingly enough, in the secular world it is common knowledge that a 'servant-leader,' one who is expert at delegating and empowering others, achieves a much higher productivity, profit, and growth of a company than an autocratic leader, and as a result the secular world is so much ahead of us in applying our own principles in regards to leadership and management.

They are prepared to pay thousands of Dollars to such a manager who would know how to empower others and expand the company. And if he wasn't doing a good job he would be replaced—autocratic leaders had gone out of fashion.

But somehow not (yet) in ISKCON—maybe because we are not so profit-orientated and therefore might not realize how much faster we could expand, if we simply had more qualified leaders?

Certainly no serious institution or company would ever put a person into a leading position unless he had the adequate training and education in the first place. But in ISKCON, it seems, we have never thought of this, even though it is well known how important leadership is for the development of a project.

Srila Prabhupada's famous letter to Karandhara in 1972 comes to my mind, where he describes good leadership in a nutshell:

"Our leaders shall be careful not to kill the spirit of enthusiastic service, which is individual and spontaneous and voluntary. They should try always to generate some atmosphere of fresh challenge to the devotees, so that they will agree enthusiastically to rise and meet it. That is the art of management: to draw out spontaneous loving spirit of sacrificing some energy for Krishna. But where are so many expert managers? All of us should become expert managers and preachers."

No doubt, to fulfill this vision of Srila Prabhupada requires the cultivation of training, combined with purity of heart. So often we put devotees in leading positions on grounds of some material ability, not paying much attention to their personal spiritual practise, or their motivations. Maybe we are too attached to externals: big and quick results. Externals are satisfying to the senses and the mind, a result of the mode of passion. We tend to forget the internals: to purify our motives and cultivate a taste for hearing and chanting. Krishna is mainly interested in our motives, with which we are offering our service, and not so much in the offering itself.

A common trap for leaders is that a big workload can lead to further neglect of one's spiritual life, and as a result the weeds of attachment are growing, rather than the bhakti lata.

In another letter Srila Prabhupada writes in 1970:

"So these two things are always side by side — Maya and Krishna — Krishna is service and Maya is sense gratification, so every moment we are prone to be subjugated by either of them. Our duty is therefore to be very, very careful. The poison is personal ambition."

Maybe we have allowed this poison of personal ambition to hamper the development of many yatras. One might say: but don't we have to be very careful in judging other's motivations? How to recognize whether we are driven by personal ambition or pure desire to serve Srila Prabhupada and spread Krishna consciousness?

The answer is: it will manifest in our ways of associating with equals. A person driven by personal ambition will find it very difficult to work with equals. He can only work with juniors, who are willing to accept and follow him. A leader who is attached to power and position can not tolerate an equal person next to him, and he will not be prepared to share his territory with another influential person.

A true servant leader will be happy to share responsibility with like-minded equals. His only desire is to serve and inspire the devotees, and he is not concerned where the inspiration comes from: himself or another person. Since he is not attached to power and position he will never feel threatened, but will simply be happy to serve in any capacity. He is free from envy.

Equal association is very powerful, intensely purifying: the most subtle anarthas are coming to the surface. Therefore HH Radhanath Maharaja is recommending the following formular: out of 100% time for association, 60% should be spent with equals, 20% with juniors, and 20% with one's Guru and the Guru's godbrothers.

Reality shows, though, that many seniors or leaders prefer to surround themselves at least 60%–80% of their time with juniors, and rarely do they have close and affectionate relationships with equals.

During this year's visit to Sri Mayapur I discussed this topic with as many devotees as I could: with seniors and GBC's, and with friends. Amazingly enough: again several devotees came up to me and poured out their heart about exactly this issue—without knowing that I was having those same realizations. They were relating to me how they felt so discouraged and unwanted by their temple authorities. It seemed as if Krishna wanted to strongly confirm this realization in my heart.

My conclusion is: we have to systematically train our leaders and managers, if we want to keep our devotees happy and enthusiastically serving in ISKCON for their whole lives. I am convinced that if we give solid training to our leaders and take care of the devotees by creating a supportive culture we will have a real "Hare Krishna explosion," and our GBC's won't have to spend most of their precious time and energy solving conflicts!

CARING FOR KRSNA'S DEVOTEES

by Devaki dd

http://namahatta.org/en/node/7403

The year 2007 had been full of unexpected transcendental adventures. In April, just before leaving India to visit Ukraine, I was diagnosed with breast cancer and had a major surgery at Bhaktivedanta Hospital in Mumbai. It was also recommended that I do chemotherapy, which I decided to do in Australia, the place where I had become a devotee in the year of 1985.

The thought of undergoing chemo at the place of my "childhood" within Krishna consciousness was like the sugar coating of the ordeal I had ahead of me. I was excited to see the Deities I had served many years ago, and to meet old friends from those days. And maybe I would even be able to combine the treatment with a little preaching tour around Australia and New Zealand—trying to inspire devotees by sharing my experiences of preaching in parts of the former Soviet Union, Bangladesh, and Nepal.

After arriving in Australia, I was eagerly anticipating the first Sunday Feast, hoping to meet well-known faces. However, to my surprise and disappointment I could hardly discover any. I thought to myself, "Let's wait until visiting sannyasis and gurus will come; surely devotees would then attend the temple programs." But I was to be disappointed again. My last hope was for Janmastami and Srila Prabhupada's Vyasa-puja, but again, not many of the older devotees turned up.

The situation made me wonder; I couldn't stop contemplating why it was so difficult in the Western world to keep devotees active in their spiritual life. I had been truly shocked at how few of the "old faces" were still coming to the temple. It seemed that many devotees had stopped chanting, and quite a few marriages had broken up. This was not just a phenomenon in Australia, but all over the Western world—something which indeed pained me. As we are always proclaiming, "Srila Prabhupada has built a house in which the whole world can live." With pain in the heart, we have to admit that although so many conditioned souls do enter the front door of this house very eagerly, many also leave again through the back door.

I somehow felt we couldn't turn a blind eye to this forever, simply saying, "They are in maya." Such explanation was not satisfying to me. Of course we know that Srila Prabhupada said, "Don't be surprised who leaves; be surprised who stays." But Srila Prabhupada also said, "If a devotee leaves it is fifty percent his fault and fifty percent the senior devotees' fault—if not the manager's fault"; and I had verified this statement with Hari Sauri Prabhu. I felt it might be time to start to more seriously take responsibility for those fifty percent.

According to my analysis, it was a question of culture: we had failed to establish a spiritual culture among the Western devotees that would give support and nourishment to a devotee's bhakti-lata—a culture based on giving shelter and accepting shelter, and on sravanam-kirtanam. The Indian congregational devotees had that culture in their blood. They invited me several times to their homes to give classes to the Indian students, and I had observed the mood among them: they were getting together regularly, reaching out to each other; the young boys would naturally seek guidance from the older ones and offer respect and service, and the older devotees would extend themselves with affection and would care for the younger ones. It was indeed a whole culture supporting spiritual development and growth.

The verse came to my mind, which HH Niranjana Maharaja quotes in the introduction to his book, Taking Care of Krishna's Devotees:

"Though one usually ignores others in attaining one's own goals, those aspiring for prema accept dependance on others with similar goals and tastes. Thus, cooperating with each other, they work together, keeping in mind the goal of prema." (Srila Jiva Goswami, Madhava Mahotsava)

The Western devotees were rooted in materialistic culture, more or less ignoring each other in their attempts to attain their goal of becoming pure devotees. The mood of accepting internal dependence had not been cultivated, but rather a mood of separatism and individualism—or maybe even selfishness. It was the deep-rooted materialistic conditioning of being brought up in the Western world—an effect of a higher standard of life, which gave some illusion of independence and so-called freedom. I was convinced that these observations were indeed giving the solution to the problem, and unless we would make an effort to establish such spiritual culture, we would not be able to keep devotees within that house which Srila Prabhupada had built for the whole world to live in.

Throughout the following weeks and months of my visit to Australia I spoke to many devotees—senior ones, and young ones. Many had voiced the lack of trusting, nourishing, and sheltering relationships within their lives. It was a common problem in the Western world: everybody was always so busy, and nobody had time to listen or give inspiration and guidance. Devotees often felt alone and isolated with their problems and concerns—an unhealthy situation. Relationships hadn't developed beyond the superficial and external levels, and there was not that spirit of respect and service toward each other. Everyone had his own busy scedule and was glad if he could somehow manage to get it all done.

I ordered one hundred copies of HH Niranjana Maharaja's book Taking Care of Krishna's Devotees, to be shipped from Ukraine to Australia, and offered it as a gift to many devotees all around Australia and New Zealand.

You can read this book online, download the pdf-file, or purchase hardcopies in our online bookshop.

It is a most wonderful book, which introduces the so-called counselor system or mentor system, which HH Radhanath Maharaja has established in Chowpatti, Mumbai. And this very system facilitates the development of a spiritually supportive culture, which is so necessary for each and every devotee for developing his bhakti- lata in a healthy and wholesome way, continuously throughout his whole life.

The mentor system is not an artificial imposition; rather, it helps cultivating the most natural aspects of Vaisnava association: giving shelter and accepting shelter on the basis of sravanam and kirtanam. And because we are rooted in materialistic ways of relating to each other, we need a little facilitation in order to cultivate deep Vaisnava relationships. This is what the mentor system is all about.

It is the most natural thing for every devotee to have a senior confidential friend, a well-wisher, who gives us inspiration, guidance, and who serves as a role model, somebody we can reveal our mind to, knowing that this person has no other interest except helping us in our spiritual life—no managerial interests, no financial interests, no emotional interests. In fact, it is said that a devotee's spiritual progress is very dependent on finding such neutral well-wisher. This is what it means to get the mercy of a Vaisnava: to find a devotee who has no other interest except furthering our spiritual growth—unconditionally, free from any material motivation.

And it is the most natural thing for every devotee who is a little experienced in spiritual life to want to reach out to younger devotees, uplift and encourage them, and share their experience and happiness in Krishna consciousness. This is what it means to grow up in spiritual life: to develop mercy, compassion, and selflessness.

In the Garuda Purana it is stated, "One cannot be liberated without association with a pure devotee of the Lord. And unless one shows mercy to those in an inferior position, one's life will be superficial."

It is an ongoing process of giving and receiving nourishment, guidance, and shelter, which requires a willingness to extend oneself in order to help others, in a spirit of self-sacrifice—as Srila Prabhupada himself demonstrated throughout his entire life.

It doesn't matter what level we are on in our spiritual life; we all need somebody to help assess ourselves, to help us recognize whether we are applying the process of Krishna consciousness in a healthy and balanced way. Very often I see senior devotees with a very unbalanced spiritual life, watering unwanted weeds instead of the creeper, and they have no one near enough to reach out to them in order to help adjust their practice. Krishna consciousness is so scientific; we can go on for lifetimes with an unbalanced spiritual practice and not get the desired result.

Interesting to note that those sannyasis and gurus who had difficulties in maintaining their asrama in the past were isolating themselves from their godbrothers, not associating in a healthy way. Especially for senior devotees, equal association gives shelter and is purifying; in fact, it brings to the surface the most subtle anarthas of envy, and the desire for name, fame, and followers. Equals can let us know things that juniors would never dare to tell us.

I am convinced that the future of ISKCON lies within a concentrated effort of establishing this supportive spiritual culture of true sadhu-sanga. Maybe the day will come when we recommend each and every devotee to accept a mentor, just as we recommend each and every devotee to accept a spiritual master.

THE PEOPLE WHO NEED IT AREN'T HERE

When I teach about coaching and leadership in my courses, I sometimes ask the qestion, "How many of you like these points, but feel that the people who need it aren't here?" They usually laugh, but most hands go up.

Perhaps we, too, are thinking that the people who really need to learn the spiritual principles of human and devotee effectiveness are not learning them. That very thought reveals that we might be dependent on their weaknesses. That we think that they need to change before we can change.

When we look at the spiritual principles through the weaknesses of others, we disempower ourselves and empower their weaknesses to continue to suck initiative, energy and enthusiasm from our lives.

When we think that powerful principles which bring about personal change are meant for someone else, it is an obstacle to our success and effectiveness.

These principles are meant for us.