By Amarananda dasa
1- Listening to each other, it should be done in attentive way otherwise the other side will feel that you are just pretending for hearing but your mind is in somewhere else!!!!
2- Tolerating one’s faults, limits, lacks, and sudden changes in one’s mood. Tolerating comes from believe that everything will change and will be alright. Everything is temporary in this world.
3- Clarifying what is hard to be tolerated and if that happens then try to react in the sweetest way and try to manifest the best aspect of personality.
4- To have trips and vacation together.
5- Showing empathy and sympathy to each other at the time of need.
6- Cooking nice Prasadam together.
7- To have a loving exchange. (Sweat words, gifts and …)
8- Visiting families and friends some times.
9- Helping each other for progressing in spiritual life by encouraging and supporting each other to have qualitative Sadhana.
10- At the time of sickness, disturbances and so on, try to be with and take care.
11- Show love or at least respect to both sides family members.
12- Show respect to both sides friends.
13- Go biking, hiking, swimming and etc together.
14- Invite devotees, serve them, provide lovely environment for their pleasure.
15- Try to be strong in ups and downs.
16- Try to associate with Gurus, Sadhus and devotees as mush as possible.
17- Try to create an acceptable financial security that could cover the living’s costs and trips.
18- To have a vision of doing especial service that will be extremely pleasing for spiritual master and Sirla Prabhupada.
19- To translate spiritual books, articles and so on that those are useful and important for everyone’s progress.
20- To learn some musical instruments that can play together.
21- taking care of bodily health, appearance and cleanliness of each other.
22- When both sides are agreed, have a child!
23- Try to learn how to forgive each other and be merciful.