Marriage Quiz - About You
Your answers to the following series of questions will give us the information to match you with people who are compatible with you. Please make sure your answers are honest and candid. To begin, please answer the following questions about yourself.
1. What is your ethnicity?
Arab
Asian/Pacific Islander
Black
Chinese
Hispanic or Latino
Indian
Japanese
Korean
Native American
Other
White, non-Hispanic
2. What language(s) do you speak?
3. What is your nationality?
4. Choose the category that best describes your highest level of education.
Associate’s
Bachelor’s
Doctorate
High School
Master’s
Did not complete High School
Some college
Marriage Quiz - Roles
These questions ask how you expect to define yours and your partner’s roles in marriage.
Marriage Role Expectations - Whom do you expect to:
Answer with: Mostly Husband, Mostly Wife, Both Equally
1. Start an argument?
2. Pay the bills?
3. Have a paying career that involves regular work outside the home?
4. Stay up with a sick child at night?
5. Decide how many children to have (or whether to have children)?
6. Clean the house or apartment?
7. Clean the toilet bowl?
8. Cook most of the meals?
9. Desire the most time and attention from partner?
10. Discipline the children?
11. Drive the car on joint outings?
12. Handle household finances?
13. Choose furniture for the house or apartment?
14. Decide where you will spend the holidays?
15. Remember important dates such as family members’ birthdays, anniversaries?
16. Initiate intimacy?
17. Invite guests over?
18. Have priority when it comes to one's job?
19. Make the bed?
20. Make most of the money?
21. Make up after an argument?
22. Have the most education?
23. Prepare the grocery list?
24. Do the grocery shopping?
25. Be the spiritual guide of the family?
26. Set the family's spiritual standards?
27. Send thank-you notes for joint gifts?
28. Maintain the care and upkeep of vehicles?
29. Wash the dishes?
30. Determine where you will live?
31. Cut the grass and take care of the yard?
32. Who should have ultimate decision-making authority?
The person most affected in each situation
Husband only
Everything by mutual agreement
Generally by mutual agreement, but husband when they can't agree
Generally by mutual agreement, but wife when they can't agree
Wife only
Marriage Quiz - Nature of Marriage
Please select whether you agree or disagree with each of the following questions.
If you are unsure about a particular question, ask yourself the opposite question. For example, you can change "A successful and happy marriage relationship must be given care and attention." to "A successful and happy marriage relationship does not need care and attention." If you agree with the opposite statement, you can then mark that you disagree with the original one.
Check items that most accurately reflect your feelings about the nature of marriage.
Answer with: Agree, Disagree, Uncertain
1. If, after marriage, people find someone they love more than their spouse, they should rightfully seek happiness with that person.
2. Before they decide to marry, every couple should see a good counselor or take a course in marriage preparation.
3. The major reason couples succeed in marriage is their determination to do so.
4. I strongly agree with the principles of feminism.
5. A successful and happy marriage relationship must be given care and attention.
6. The guru should be the ultimate authority in the family.
7. Family control should be centered around the husband.
8. The purpose of marriage is the partner's individual happiness.
9. A couple who "like each other very much" rather than "being in love" might make a happy and successful marriage.
10. If two people are really in love, they will be able to work out any marital difficulties.
11. In a certain sense, when two people marry they marry each other's families.
12. A childless marriage would be quite unsatisfactory.
13. The main factor in marriage dissatisfaction is usually sexual maladjustment.
14. Studying about marriage tends to take away the romance.
15. Attaining economic security is an unsatisfactory motive for marriage.
16. Parents should have a real voice in the decisions their children make regarding a mate.
17. The secret of successful marriage is having realistic expectations of what two people can do.
18. Marriages would be more successful if the roles of husband and wife were more sharply defined.
19. Marriage symbolizes a turning away from one's self to others.
20. Society itself has a significant input in stable marriages.
21. The most important aspect of compatibility is harmony of spiritual ideals.
22. If both partners are serious about their spiritual practices, they can work out any marital difficulties.
23. Young people today take marriage entirely too casually.
Marriage Quiz - Relations in Marriage
Please select whether you agree or disagree with each of the following questions.
Check items that most accurately reflect your feelings about marital relationships.
Answer with: Agree, Disagree, Uncertain
1. Marriage can supply all our relationship needs.
2. A strong relationship, once broken, becomes very difficult to restore, even if the participants feel they wish to restore it.
3. Relationships must improve over a period of time if they are to remain viable.
4. The qualities basic to a parent-child relationship are very different from those of a love-lover relationship.
5. Really significant relationships are those built on the basis of emotional understanding.
6. Really significant relationships are those built on the basis of intellectual understanding.
7. The idea that relationships "grow" is absurd.
8. A marriage can be good without being intimate emotionally or physically.
9. A person can feel he/she has a significant relationship even with a person that he/she has never met.
10. Practically all our relationship needs can be fulfilled in the nuclear family.
11. In terms of time and energy, there is a limited number of deeply intimate relationships one can support.
12. A good relationship can be developed rather quickly since the process is uncomplicated.
13. Relationships are very important way in achieving individual fulfilment.
14. Similarities in background make it easier to build relationships.
15. Really significant relationships are those built on the basis of spiritual understanding.
16. Termination of a dysfunctional relationship may facilitate personal growth.
17. With time and effort, you can build a meaningful relationship with practically anyone.
Marriage Quiz - Spiritual Standards
The following questions relate to your current spiritual situation and your feeling about spiritual commitment.
1. What is your initiation status?
First-Initiated by disciple of Prabhupada
Second-Initiated by disciple of Prabhupada
Aspiring for initiation by disciple of Prabhupada
Aspiring for initiation by ISKCON guru who is not Prabhupada’s disciple
Not interested in initiation
Not initiated and not aspiring at this time
Initiated by other Gaudiya Vaisnava Guru
Aspiring for initiation from other Gaudiya Vaisnava Guru
First-Initiated by Srila Prabhupada
Second-Initiated by Srila Prabhupada
How often do you do the following activities:
Answer with: Never, Rarely, Occasionally, Regularly
1. Drink alcohol?
2. Drink coffee, tea, or caffeine sodas?
3. Eat food cooked by devotees?
4. Observe Ekadasi?
5. Gamble (slots, casino, poker, etc.)?
6. Eat meat, fish, or eggs?
7. Offer your food to Krishna?
8. Eat vegetarian food containing onions or garlic?
9. Preach about Krishna to non-devotees?
10. Rise early, before sunrise?
11. Chant at least sixteen rounds?
12. Smoke tobacco?
13. Watch movies and television?
14. Observe Vaisnava holidays?
15. Play video games?
16. Visit a temple outside the home?
1. What do you feel should be the spiritual commitment of your partner, in comparison to your own:
My partner and I should be equal in our spiritual commitment and practices.
I'm satisfied to have a spouse who is less committed to spiritual practices than I am.
My partner should be more spiritually advanced than I.
Marriage Quiz - Things
For each of the following items, please choose how important you feel the item is or will be to you in your marriage.
For each of the items, please select: Essential, Preferred, Doesn't Matter
1. A second vehicle
2. Books other than those about krishna consciousness
3. Computer equipment
4. Contemporary furniture
5. Tickets to concerts
6. Cosmetics
7. A dental plan
8. Regular eating in devotee restaurants or take-outs
9. Buying or renting devotional videos/dvds
10. An expensive vehicle
11. Presents for family
12. Eating in fancy restaurants
13. A wardrobe of up-to-date clothing
14. Presents for friends
15. Membership in a health or fitness club
16. A nice holiday every year
17. Home improvement
18. Owning a house
19. House or apartment near iskcon center
20. Household insurance (fire, theft, earthquake, etc.)
21. Completing husband's education
22. Investments in stocks or bonds
23. Landscaping
24. Life insurance
25. A house/apartment in a materially desirable location
26. Personal care services such as manicures or hairstyling
27. Charity to humanitarian/ecological projects
28. Entertainment once a week such as movies
29. Night school courses for job upgrading
30. Buying or renting non-devotional videos/dvds
31. A pet
32. Regular spiritual pilgrimage
33. A retirement plan
34. A savings account
35. Snack food (soft drinks, chips, etc.)
36. Spiritual books
37. Season tickets to favorite sporting events
38. Sports equipment such as a bicycle, skis, skates, etc.
39. Charity to religious/spiritual projects
40. Spiritual magazine subscription
41. An expensive stereo system
42. Mundane newspaper or magazine subscriptions
43. Non-devotee take-out or fast food
44. An expensive video system
45. Computer/video games
46. Completing wife's education
Marriage Quiz - Money
Money is a common area of disagreement between married couples. Please provide your honest assessment for each of the following questions.
What are your feelings about money management and finances?
Answer with: Agree, Disagree, Uncertain
1. Married people should never have separate bank accounts--they should share their money.
2. It's all right to spend money you don't have--you can always borrow.
3. I often buy things on impulse.
4. Half of the family’s income should be spent for Krishna conscious purposes.
5. Having money is important to me.
6. I'm very organized with my money and keep track of how much I spend.
7. Having no debts is important to me. If I don't have the money, I won't buy.
8. A percentage of the family’s income should be spent for Krishna conscious purposes.
9. Saving money is easy for me.
10. It's important to save money for unforeseen emergencies.
11. Buying on credit helps you to get all the things you want.
12. It would be okay with me to live on unemployment or on welfare.
Marriage Quiz - Family and Children
Please answer the following questions about children, relatives, and your personal history.
Check items that most accurately reflect your feelings about the training of children.
Answer with: Agree, Disagree, Uncertain
1. Children should be educated by devotee teachers who teach Krishna consciousness along with academic subjects, either at home or in a school.
2. Young children should be free to do what they want.
3. Children should receive early training in Vaisnava behaviour.
4. Children should get to have much of what non-devotees have.
5. Children should not be exposed to materialistic media.
6. Children should not attend non-devotee schools.
7. Schools are not important as long as the family is strong.
8. Children should worship with the parents.
Check items that most accurately reflect your feelings about parents and in-laws.
Answer with: Agree, Disagree, Uncertain
9. It's important that both sets of parents agree with our lifestyle.
10. It's important that both sets of parents approve of the marriage.
11. Parents and in-laws should be involved with the family.
12. I would want to live with my parents or in-laws.
13. The couple should live near the husband’s parents, the wife’s parents, or both sets of parents.
14. Parents and in-laws should visit but not interfere.
15. What is your marital/relationship history?
I have children from a previous relationship.
I've had unmarried sexual relationships.
I've been divorced.
I've had no previous marriage or unmarried sexual relationships.
I'm currently separated and planning to divorce.
I've been widowed.
Marriage Quiz - Sex
For the following questions, please select the answer you most agree with.
1. What sexual standards do you expect to follow within marriage?
Sex only within the marriage.
Sex once a month for children, and not during pregnancy or six months after birth. Sex only for children; no contraception.
2. How do you expect to handle sexual disagreements with your spouse?
If we disagree about standards we will work out compromises.
I will give my spouse what he/she needs even if I wish a higher standard.
If my spouse cannot follow my level of renunciation we will get help.
If my spouse cannot follow my level of renunciation it is her/his problem.
3. How did your family treat the discussion of sex?
My family discussed sex in negative and critical ways.
Sexual matters were not discussed in my family.
My family discussed sexual questions openly.
Sex was discussed rarely and with discomfort.
Marriage Quiz - Interests
Please answer how important each of the following items are to you.
What interests are most important to share with your spouse?
Answer with: Essential, Preferred, Doesn't Matter
1. Art and culture
2. Astrology
3. Board games
4. Camping
5. Computers
6. Cooking
7. Having a cow, bull, or ox
8. Deity worship at home
9. Listening to devotional music
10. Gardening
11. Hobbies in general
12. Home maintenance and repair
13. Inviting guests to one's home
14. Music--playing instruments and singing
15. Painting and drawing
16. Pets
17. Politics and history
18. Reading
19. Sadhana, as in Deity worship and chanting
20. Science
21. Sewing
22. Social interactions with friends
23. Solitude
24. Reading transcendental literature
25. Sports and fitness activities
26. Teaching/Coaching
27. Theatre, organizing and acting
28. Travelling
29. Woodworking
30. Work and service
31. Writing
Marriage Quiz - About Your Partner
You've answered many questions about yourself and your feelings about marriage. Please take the time to choose which specific qualities you'd prefer in your partner.
How important is it that your partner has the following habits?
Answer with: Essential, Preferred, Doesn't Matter
1. Eat only food cooked by devotees
2. Observe Ekadasi
3. Offer your food to Krishna
4. Preach about Krishna to non-devotees
5. Rise early, before sunrise
6. Chant at least sixteen rounds
7. Observe Vaisnava holidays
8. Visit a temple outside the home
How important is it that your partner does not have the following habits?
Answer with: Essential, Preferred, Doesn't Matter
9. Drink coffee, tea, or caffeine sodas
10. Gamble (slots, casino, poker, etc.)
11. Eat meat, fish, or eggs
12. Eat vegetarian food containing onions or garlic
13. Smoke tobacco
14. Watch movies and television
15. Play video games
16. Please choose which categories of initiation status you are willing to accept in your partner.
No preference
First-initiated by disciple of Prabhupada
Second-initiated by disciple of Prabhupada
Aspiring for initiation by disciple of Prabhupada
Not interested in initiation
Not initiated and not aspiring at this time
Initiated by other Gaudiya Vaisnava Guru
Aspiring for initiation from other Gaudiya Vaisnava Guru
First-initiated by Srila Prabhupada
Second-initiated by Srila Prabhupada
17. What are your preferences for your partner's situation in regard to previous relationships?
I'm willing to marry someone with children.
I'm willing to marry someone who is divorced.
I'm only willing to marry someone with no previous relationships or children.
I'm willing to marry someone who had previous unmarried relationships.
I'm willing to marry someone who is widowed.
18. What level of education do you want your partner to have (as compared to your own)?
No preference.
Less than mine.
Greater then mine.
The same level as mine.
The same or less.
The same or greater.
19. Which ethnicities would you be willing to accept as matches? (Check all that apply.) No preference
Arab
Asian/Pacific Islander
Black
Chinese
Hispanic or Latino
Indian
Japanese
Korean
Native American
White, non-Hispanic
Other
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